Saturday, December 05, 2009

(Part 5) The Wait will be Worth it!

Though I haven't yet experienced courtship and marriage, I've seen and read the stories of many who have, and who had waited for God's timing. Did they regret the wait? No. Countless times I've heard the same thing echoed: "It was worth it."

When you give yourself to the one you waited for, you don't wish you had those experiences with someone else. You are so glad that you waited for them, thankful that God gave you the strength and patience to persevere. When you're with the one you truly love, the lonely Friday nights when you wondered if you'd ever marry fade away. Dreams still do come true.

Is it all the bliss you imagined? Many say it's even better, but also that it's quite different from what they expected. The mundane will still invade even the joyfully married.

But the wait will be worth it all. All the tears, all the fears, all the dreams that had to wait. The lessons and experiences that happened during the waiting will be precious as you see how they prepared you.

Is it only worth it if you marry the first one you court? No. I do hope that I only court one man, but I also know that some successful courtships end with breaking off the relationship. Part of getting to know someone means that you could realize that this isn't the one you're supposed to marry. But by committing to purity in the relationship, you remain pure for your future husband - whether he is the one you're currently courting or not. A courtship that ends does leave hurt, but God teaches lessons through it.

And if you've made big mistakes in the past, it doesn't mean that you have no hope now. We all have messed up, but God is so faithful to forgive and give new opportunities. By turning, repenting, and committing to a new way of life, living set-apart for the Lord and pure for your future spouse, God is gracious to wipe the old away and bring about glorious, new things!

Life won't suddenly be perfect when I become a bride. We still live in a world of sin, and there are many challenges that face married couples. The relationship will require a lot of time and work. But it will be worth it - I cling to that.

Sometimes I do wonder how it will be... if I'll be adequate. After years of waiting and suppressing the desires that yearn but can't yet be fulfilled, how will I make the switch? How will I know when I am attracted to the one, that it's more than a girlish fancy? As in everything else, I cling to the faithfulness of God. He will show me in His time. Though love is hard to explain, and you aren't always immediately certain about it, most people say that when it's the one, you just know.

I look forward to the day when I'll look my Dearest in the eye and say, "I waited - for you. And it was worth it! You're worth it all."

Until then, I'll keep waiting.


Anonymous said...

Thank you for beautifully expressing your heart on this subject. I know it is very personally felt as you are in the waiting process. I am thankful for your positive influence on not only my daughter, Eirene's life, but also on myself and many others. May God bless you richly and pour out His favor in all your efforts to serve Him. With love, Tonya Horne

Anonymous said...

Another amazing post. Thank you so much for sharing. I can tell that you want to (and you do :) ) glorify God through each and every post.

Many blessings,
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Surndr said...

Thanks for this series. I have the hardest time clearly expressing my beliefs to others, especially when it comes to topics such as dating vs. waiting. This series so clearly stated many of my beliefs it was/is such a blessing. Thank you! Elizabeth

Sheila said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! This has been the biggest blessing I could wish for.


Cherishing Young Biblical Womanhood said...

Coming from a married young lady, I commend your article. I am printing them for my 4 year old daughter. One day she'll be 14 and she'll need the wisdom that you've provided. Thank you for your articles and encouragement for young women striving for physical and emotional purity. It is so sweet to read your posts and reminisce about my waiting days. God Bless you.

Anna Naomi said...

Thank you all for your comments! It encourages me to hear from you all!

Lydia said...

Thank you for posting these thoughts. It's encouraging to be reminded about why we wait and to have examples of others who are being patient for God's best and His glory. God is truly faithful!
I'm so glad you have a sister like you!

Sharon said...

Thank you so much for your post. It is an inspiration to me. I am a 30 year-old virgin and if anyone has been as old as I am, it can be complicated. There is a special guy in my life and we have been friends for years but we are just getting to really know each other and it is a very rewarding time in our lives. We both know we are meant for each other but in God's time, everything else will fall into place. Neither one of us wants to rush things but instead opting to go at God's pace. The waiting can still be hard at times though. What gets us through is a lot of prayer.

Lexie said...

I agree with you about waiting for the right one in God's timing. Although I did venture down the dating road a few times I have found the beauty of courtship worth the wait and thanks to that wait I am now "courting" my wonderful boyfriend Stephen of almost a year now. It's funny how we think we know ourselves better than God and when we do wait he blesses us when we would least expect it.

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for doing this series! It has been such an encouragement to see that there are other young ladies out there who share my values.

I, myself, waited and prayed for my future husband; wanting to be led to him, not a temporary boyfriend. I watched as a dear friend went through several boyfriends and wondered if I'd ever find the man for me, but still I waited. I became friends with two girls, Rachel and Rachael, who are also waiting, and it was so encouraging to have them around in the lonely times. I graduated high school(I had been homeschooled) in May '08, and was moved up the next weekend to the college ministry at my church.

God led me to the man I'd been waiting for on the 1st of June 2008, in my Sunday School class. We became friends through the summer and autumn, and on December 1st that year he and I became a couple. By spring we knew that God's plan was for us to marry, and in April(not surprisingly, the 1st) he asked me to marry him and asked for my parents' blessing. Our wedding is on May 1st this year...and I'm very glad I waited!

Anna, your blog has been a great encouragement to me since I stumbled across it in the summer of 08, and I hope my story has been able to encourage those still waiting on God's timing. His will is perfect, always.

Thank you so much,


Anonymous said...

That is very good! Amen and God Bless.