Now, at 19 going on 20, I'm still waiting. I am still young, but it can be a bit harder to wait patiently. I am ready to marry, whenever the Lord wills. I'm of legal age, my parents agree that I'm ready, I've continued to prepare in as many ways as I can - but prince charming hasn't yet revealed himself.
I've continued to read many good marriage and parenting books, which helps me prepare. However, I can't exactly put what I learn into practice until I have a husband and children. I have all of this information, but it can be frustrating when there's no where to use it. Don't get me wrong, it's good to prepare and I've always enjoyed these types of books - and I have used some of it in talking with friends and siblings - but I know that real-life application will be different from the great quotes and tips I've gathered.
I've definitely not learned all there is to know, but it doesn't seem like anyone can ever be truly ready for marriage. The process itself matures you quickly.
Is it bad to long for marriage? Shouldn't God be enough? Yes, God is enough for our every need, but He has also created us for relationships. As Candice Watters says in the book Get Married,
"If it's true that God is all we need for fulfillment, then no one was in a better position to be fully satisfied than Adam" (Get Married, page 21).
Yet, God said "It is not good for man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18). To satisfy this need, God made Eve and joined them together in marriage.
It's true that some are called to life-long singleness, and if that is what God has for me, He will give me the grace for it. But, if you have a strong desire to marry (as I do), most likely it is something you'll experience. And having this desire is okay! In the chapter "believe marriage is a worthwhile and holy pursuit," Candice writes,
"Marriage is not a compromise. It is not a spiritually inferior path. It's what God is calling you to for your good and His glory" (Get Married, page 33).
But for now, I am still single. I'm still in the "waiting" stage. This waiting is a time of growth and learning patience as I trust God for His timing. It is painful at times, but it is also sweet. Indeed, I'm very thankful for it.
But why wait? Who am I waiting for anyways? What I am doing in the meantime? Will it even be worth it?
These are questions I hope to explore in the week ahead, so stay tuned...
Please note: I know that marriage is not the end-all in life, and I realize that I am still young. It's not my wish to sound desperate, for I'm not! It's also not my goal to focus on this topic too long, for I want to use this single season well. However, I do think it's a good thing to discuss. These posts will be more geared toward single young women, and I hope they will be encouraged. However, perhaps it will encourage others as well, married or not, in other seasons of waiting.