Thursday, May 21, 2009
If you haven't already read the post "Why I Wear Skirts" over at Is This Modest? I encourage you to read it now! Hannah did a great job in writing a grace-filled post on wearing skirts - not saying that pants are bad, but giving reasons why she personally has chosen to wear skirts.
Her post was one I could agree with wholeheartedly. While it would be nice if I had a Bible verse to point to that backs up my reasoning to wear skirts, I personally don't believe that there is one. As for me, I have chosen to wear skirts, and I do believe that God led me to this decision 3 years ago. I have found peace and joy in wearing clothing that I am truly comfortable and feel beautiful in.
Why do I do it? As the above-mentioned post outlines, I do think that the shape of skirts tend to be more modest (although there are many immodest skirts out there, because of tightness or length). Although there are certainly pants that fit the standards of modesty, they are often hard to find. Like it or not, pants tend to cling to and accentuate things I'd rather not show. When I wore pants, I usually ended up getting ones that were so loose and frumpy that I felt rather ugly and uncomfortable in what I wore. There are creative ways of finding them and making them more modest and feminine, but I just enjoy going ahead and wearing skirts instead!
That said, there are circumstances that do call for pants, and in those situations I do wear them. Yes, I can do many things in a skirt, but sometimes it makes others and yourself more comfortable to wear pants in situations of much movement, so that there isn't the underlying question in everyone's mind of whether or not the skirt will fly up. I do play and do active things in skirts, but I make sure that they are long enough, sometimes wear shorts underneath, and I have learned to manage my skirt modestly in many situations. However, there are still times that call for pants, and times that I wear them in order to make others more comfortable. Two things are good to remember: context and company. Some things are just fine if there are only girls around, other times it is good to change or simply refrain from the activity.
The history of women wearing pants, based in feminism and a desire to be just like the men also makes me enjoy skirts more. Yes, I know that pants don't stand for those things now-a-days, but the old-fashioned girl in me prefers to dress in the way women did for centuries.
After many questions by others of whether I wear skirts because I have to, or if I'm of a certain denomination based on my appearance (with long hair and skirts), I have wondered whether or not I should wear pants more just to not come across as legalistic, for that is not my intention at all! But, each time I have explained my reasoning - often not much more than "I just enjoy them more!" many respond by saying that they think it's neat and admire my decision.
Yes, it's different. But is different bad? I know that part of being modest is not drawing undue attention to oneself. Wearing skirts most of the time does make you stand out in some situations, and so I have wondered whether I was right in wearing them. However, I find it sad that girls are noticed simply because they're wearing a dress. We're given the beautiful advantage of being able to wear such pretty things, so I'm all for making them more common in everyday life by wearing them myself each day! =)
My overall reasoning for wearing skirts? They're such a joy! Getting dressed each day is fun! I never had such a good time picking out my outfits when wearing pants. :-) I know, this reasoning sounds rather fickle, but it is truly a personal preference, a matter of opinion. Praise God for the grace He has given us to enjoy each new day in many different ways!
Yes, always wearing skirts can tends towards frumpiness. It's something that I try to guard against, although we certainly don't have to look dressed up and ready for a ball all the time just because we wear a skirt! They do make me feel somewhat like a princess however. =) At the same time, I in no way have the perfect style figured out!.
Although many think it must cost a fortune to wear so many skirts, skirts don't have to be expensive. I can sew nice ones for $10 or less (depending on fabric choice), and thrift stores and discount outlets often have nice ones at good prices. In fact, for $22 I bought 4 skirts and a dress at such stores on Tuesday! It takes hunting and creativity, but it's fun to find such bargains!
Wearing a skirt reminds me that I am a lady, and I enjoy that minute-by-minute reminder as the fabric swishes around my legs. I enjoy giving a twirl now and then just for the fun of it. I enjoy being a girl. Wearing skirts helps me remember and delight in the fact that God made me to be feminine!
Yes, you can do this by wearing pants. I have to not find pride in my skirt-wearing, just as those who wear pants shouldn't look down on skirt-wearers because they wear skirts. As in all things, we must find a balance, and not be held in bondage because of what we wear. As for me, wearing skirts helped set me free to be the woman God made me to be!
If you're not led to wear skirts all the time, then don't do so and don't feel condemned by any means! If, however, you'd like to but are scared of what others will think, don't be afraid! Yes, people do tease sometimes in fun, but I've gotten far more compliments on "what a pretty outfit" - although compliments shouldn't be our motivation for what we wear either. If you are another skirt-wearer, then find encouragement that there are others out there that enjoy the same things you do.
Walk in grace, whether clad in a skirt or pants. :)
Posted by Anna Naomi at 9:30 PM