Friday, July 27, 2007

A Promise...

Before God, our family, and friends...
An outward sign of our inner convictions to...

... Remain physically pure
... Guard our thoughts and emotions
... Not give away our heart or hand until God's timing
... Keep our heart and mind fixed on Jesus instead of passing attractions
... Strive to live a life of purity with our Father's help
... Fall in love with Jesus and give our hearts completely to Him.

Anna's Ring
I received my purity ring on June 1st, 2007 as a gift from Luke and Michele. As part of a thank you for helping out / early graduation gift, they told me that they'd buy me a purity/promise ring last April. Luke researched and found many different kinds of rings, and my job was to get my finger sized (I'd never really worn rings much before) and choose which ring they should order.

I settled on the one pictured to the right, for I appreciated the beauty and simplicity of it. There were many beautiful rings, but this one clearly portrayed that I was dedicated to guarding my heart. The single diamond in the center of the tiny heart symbolizes two different things for me. First, it reminds me that I am guarding the treasure (purity of body and mind) inside my heart, where I hope it shines for the world to see. In addition, it reminds me that I am saving my heart for one man (the single diamond).

Before I even imagined that I'd get a purity ring, I didn't see much of a need for one, other than the fact that it would be pretty to wear. I was already committed to "waiting, not dating", and my convictions were strong. When Luke and Michele told me they'd get me a purity/promise ring, I grew very excited, and was even more so when I began to page through the possibilities. The first day I wore the ring, I was so excited, and kept looking down and admiring it. Since then, I've discovered that it's very helpful in keeping me focused. All I do is glimpse down, and I'm reminded once again that I'm saving myself for one.

Miriam's Ring
I received my promise ring as a birthday present on November 17, 2005 from my parents. It was a total surprise to me, as I didn't wear much jewelry and much less rings. They always got in my way. But this ring had new meaning to me. It was given to me to signify the promise I had made to keep emotionally, physically, and spiritually pure. Mother and I had been talking about a month earlier and she asked me if I had decided to let them guide me in my late teen years and follow their decisions for me until I'm of age to make sound decisions on my own. I said that, yes, I definitely wanted their help with the difficult decisions that would come with growing up.

On my birthday, they surprised me with this lovely ring and told me that "it represents your commitment to the Lord and to us to keep yourself pure in thought, word and action".

The diamond in the middle represents my promise and purity, and though the three hearts on either side do not significantly mean anything, I like to see them as my six siblings helping to guard me. I also look at my ring often when I'm wearing it and thank the Lord for such a beautiful, but also helpful gift. For whenever I look at it, I'm reminded of the promise I have made to purity.

"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." ~ Proverbs 4:23

"Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God." ~ Matthew 5:8


Ednella said...

What a beautiful entry, girls! I loved it!

I just started wearing a purity ring last month, and I love it. (The only negative side effect is a few embarrassing moments when strangers think I might be married to my brother :).)

Yesterday something intersting happened because of my wearing a ring, and especially on the "wedding finger". A lady from church said "Oooh, Nella, you're already engaged! Who is the lucky fellow?" Trying not to blush, I said, "I don't know him yet." It was all I could do to not choke on my lemonade!

Every blessing,

Luke said...

I must agree with Ednella, you both wrote beautifully! LORD willing you will be a great encouragement to many young ladies who desire to remain pure emotionally and physically for their husbands!

love ya!

Laura H said...

Awesome Rings!
I had a ring that said, God Is Love, and I wore it for quite a while, then it broke. I was so sad! I wore it as a symbol that I my love was God's love, and that I kept my heart for God, until it broke! What a saddening thing!
I realize that it is more important to have your heart changed to purity, and such, and the ring is a good thing to show it! I have a hard time, remembering it. I wear a necklace, that has three hearts, with Cubic Zerconium on it, that are linked together. It is a great way to see, that my heart, and the heart of my future husband, are intwined with the Lord's! I think it is neat. I like that alot!
God bless!
Laura H

Ella said...

Beautiful rings....yet the promises you made are even better!

Like the two of you, I don't wear jewelry much...and not even a purity ring. My "symbol" of promise is my hope chest. Sometimes, I wish I had a ring, for people might look at me and say, "Oh, she isn't committed to purity." Oh well. The Lord and my parents know the truth!

Anna Naomi said...

Ednella, yes, it can be awkward to have a ring on your engagement finger sometimes! I haven't had anyone comment about mine, but my dad was very curious when Miriam started wearing hers! ;-)

Thanks, Michele! Thanks again so much for the ring!!

Laura, your necklace sounds beautiful! I'm so sorry your ring broke... that would be hard.

Ella, I don't think anyone will think you're not committed to purity because you don't wear a ring; in fact, although purity rings are becoming more popular, most people are a little confused when they see a girl wearing one as to whether or not she's engaged. Outward symbols do help somewhat, but it's the heart that matters. I'm sure you're a beautiful example of purity to all you meet - you've been such a blessing to me.

Claire said...

Thank you, girls, for a beautiful post. Your rings are so lovely and your explanations equally so. My sisters and I all have purity (chastity) rings that we received as gifts from our parents on the occasion of our Confirmation (the sacrament of adulthood in the Faith for Catholics)... very significant and very beautiful. We also wear ours on our left hands (although we have some friends who wear theirs on their right), and I like to say mine is "reserving the spot"! Or to phrase it differently, I like to think of it as a "pre-wedding" wedding ring. In other words... a wedding ring is an outward symbol of faithfulness to one's spouse; likewise, my chastity ring is a symbol of faithfulness to my future spouse... even though I may not know him yet.


Anna Naomi said...

Claire, yes, I like to think that my purity ring is reserving the space for my wedding ring. It's more of a reminder.

I have a question for all you girls with purity rings: When you get engaged/married, what are you going to do with your ring? Are you going to switch it to your right hand, give it to your husband, or save it for your daughter? I've heard of people doing a lot of different things, and I'm curious. =)

Anna S said...

Anna and Miriam, how lovely! Your rings are very beautiful, and your commitment to purity even more so! What a wise decision you both have made, to let your parents shelter your hearts and not give in to the sinful attitudes of our culture.
God bless both of you!

Elijah Lofgren said...

@Anna and Miriam Thanks for sharing this. May God bless you both with Godly husbands.

@Ednella Thanks for sharing your very funny stories! :)

Sheila said...

That is beautiful! I don't have a purity ring, but I do have a TRUST ring. Perhaps some time I'll post about it! :)

I think you may be interested in the most recent post on my blog as it applies to you and your blog. :) Enjoy!

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God bless,

thepatriot said...

Lovely post, ladies! Your rings are so beautiful and meaningful.

And the blog looks great! You are getting so popular. ;) Love you guys!

HsKubes' Gal said...

Lovely post, girls! They are beautiful rings! I also have a purity/promise ring. It's a heart with a keyhole in it and a diamond. My dad carries the little key to my heart, and when I'm married, he'll give the key to my husband.
It's so encouraging to see other young ladies committed to physical and emotional purity! I know the Lord will definately bless you for your decisions and commitments.


Anonymous said...

I recieved a purity ring when I turned 13. It has a two hands holding a heart. When I get engaged, I plan on giving my ring to my future husband. I thought about wearing it on the other hand, but I think it would be special to give it to him, maybe even during the wedding ceremony.
Lovely post, Anna and Miriam!

Lori Beth said...

I just found your lovely blog a few days ago and have been enjoying it every since! I look forward to all of your future posts!

I wear a purity ring. it's streling silver with a heart shape, but the center is cut out. I like to think that God is holding it for my my special someone.

I also wear a necklace that is a key with a cross and heart in it and it says "True Love Waits".

I'm nto sure what I'll do with them when I marry. I know that when I get engaged, I'll switch my ring to my right hand (it currently sits on my ring finger on my left hand). Perhaps when I marry, I'll wear both down the aisle and take them off, put them in this special silver box I have and then give it to him. We'll see!

Beverly said...

The rings are beautiful, and so much more so, the promise associated with them. I can testify to the joy of "waiting not dating!" May God bless you both with men of honor.

Anonymous said...

I am looking for a purity ring. I am looking to find the right one. When i am married, i will give my purity ring to my parents. I think that would be the best give a child can give to their parents.

Please let me know of any places i could find a purity ring.

Anna Naomi said...

Anonymous: I suggest that you do a Google search for "purity rings". It will bring up a whole lot of different styles! A lot of people asked me where I got mine, but the website my brother bought it from has since closed down! So, just search online, and you'll probably find something you like.