Sunday, June 17, 2007

Daddy's Girl

I've always been a Daddy's girl. From listening to him read out of the encyclopedia to talking about everything imaginable, I've always enjoyed spending time with my Daddy. He's danced with me, acted with me, and supported me is so many endeavors. I love my Papa.

In today's world, sadly, so many grow up without having that loving, supportive father. My heart aches for them; I don't know how I'd go on without my father's love. So often, a father's role is overlooked or brushed aside.After all, isn't the mother the most important in a girl's life? Yes, a mother is very important, but so is a father. Vitally so. God knew what He was doing when He designed a family to have a mother and a father. I don't know what it would be like to be missing one or the other, but I know that it must be hard. I am so blessed to have two loving parents.

A girl needs that father's love. We, as women and girls, are designed to need the love of a man. Without a father to love and support her, so many young women turn to young men to fill that void. The absence of a father has caused so many of the problems we see in this world today. Yet, courageous men have stuck it out. It's not an easy job, and for that we honor them today.

My Daddy gives me the love and assurance I so desperately need. A smile, a lighthearted teasing, an "I love you" - they all show me how much he cares. It's amazing how a little word of encouragement or exhortation to not worry can pick my spirits up and put the spring back into my step. And after a long, tiring day or a disappointment, there is nothing like the reassurance of a father's embrace. Sometimes I just need to have him "fill up my love bucket." Ever since I was a little girl, I've always known were to run if I need anything. Daddy's arms are always open.

I may not always understand him. I don't fully understand his aversion to earrings or nail polish, but I've learned to accept it. I don't understand his excitement over tickling my feet, but I've learned to play along - and keep a close eye out for his sneaky hand! As daughters, it's too easy for us to decide we can't figure our fathers out and simply stop trying. However, it is so important for us to take the time to learn our father. Find out what he enjoys. I find great joy and satisfaction from taking the time to fix my dad's favorite meals. They may not always be my favorite, but I get the delight of watching him enjoy it and exclaim over it with contentment. Learn what he likes. My daddy likes my hair long; it makes me happy, since I like it that way as well! Find out what he has fun doing. Many a happy hour has been spent playing games with our father. Far from simply learning new strategies and releasing competitiveness, we have learned so much by talking with Dad, and hearing him recount memories from his childhood.

"But how do you start?" you may be wondering, "I've never really been that close to my dad." Oftentimes, the reason is because we girls don't always take the steps to try to get to know him It takes work. So many times, Dads don't know what to do with their daughters. Time goes quickly, and before they know it, Daddy's little girl turns into a grown-up young lady, no matter how often he tries to tell her that he likes her just the way she is. Sometimes fathers pull away out of confusion. We, as young ladies and our Daddy's daughter, need to show him that we're still his little princess at heart. Take the time to build a meaningful relationship with him. It will last all your life, and you'll never regret it.

To all the fathers reading this, thank you. Thank you for the time you invest in the lives of your daughters and sons. Thank you for the ways you lead your family and the ways you teach them about God. We as children often come to know God as our heavenly Father because of your example. Thank you for the sacrifices you make.

To my own dear daddy, thank you so much! Thank you for all the talks, teasing, games, and memories. Thank you for always having your arms open when I need you. Thank you for being willing to escort me around and letting me hang onto your arm. You have no idea how much confidence and feeling of comfort and protection you give to me. Thank you for doing even the crazy things, just to show me how much you love me. Thank you for being the strong father that I need so much, and being for me a father that I can look at with love and say, "Yes, that's my Daddy."

Happy Father's Day! I love you Daddy!


Anna S said...

I got so emotional reading this. What a lovely tribute to your father, and to all the wonderful fathers out there!

I never knew my father, and therefore I can say that the feminists' claims - that the father's role is less important than the mother's - are simply not true. Some part of me will always be the little girl who needs her father's love and protection. I think that not having my father's guidance made me prone to some of the most horrible mistsakes I made.

However, those of us who don't have earthly fathers have a loving Father in heaven, watching over us. Praise Him!

Ednella said...

What a sweet tribute to your daddy, Anna!

thepatriot said...

Wow, Anna; you were actually chubby once! ;)

Great post! Man, the feminists hate the idea that a daughter could actually love her father, but I'm proud to say you throw them out of whack very well! :)

Luke said...

Hey, I just wanted to encourage Anna S- I grew up with a dad but an absent one. You are right to look to God as your Heavenly Father who will "never leave you nor forsake you". Learn about Him and who He is really like. God knew what would happen in your life and He weaves it all together for God in His perfect plan. God has blessed me with a wonderful husband, Anna L's brother who is a very loving father to our children.
God will bless you as you continue to seek and serve Him. He can heal and fill all those "missing pieces" better than any earthly father especially when the earthly ones are missing.

Love in Him,

Miriam Rebekah said...

Happy Father's Day, Mr. Lofgren and all the other fathers out there!

I meant to write a post, but I was really tired, so I just told it to my daddy. :)

Using Anna's definition of a "Daddy's Girl", then I would definitely be that. I'm not my father's favorite, but I'll always go to my father when I need him.
I love my dad so much!

I feel so sorry for the feminists that can't or don't love their fathers, or haven't know a father's love. They have missed so much.

Anna Naomi said...

Thanks for the comments, girls!

Anna S, you're so right. We are so privileged to have a heavenly Father! Michele, thanks for the comment as well. It's hard for me to know what to say, when I've had a father my whole life. When it's a father's day post, I tend to focus more on fathers. =) Thanks for your perspective.

Miriam, by definition of Daddy's girl, I definitely didn't mean that I was Daddy's favorite! He loves us all equally. This post, since it was written by mean, naturally focused on the things we've done together.

Ella said...

I didn't get to a tribute to my father like I wanted to, but reading yours summed up what I would have said. I am so thankful for my dad, and I am glad that I need his adivce, guidance, and protection. God is good!