Friday, October 27, 2006

A Call to Purity

I am taking a break from sewing, to post this, since I already have it written. I've already completed mom's and my dresses, and am currently working on Jubilee's. Everything should be done by Sunday!

As Miriam already mentioned, a group of mothers and daughters is meeting together every month, studying the book Before You Meet Prince Charming. It has been very enjoyable, and I have already learned so much. It's wonderful to be able to learn from our mothers things they wished they would have known when they were young, and share with each other things on our hearts.

At the end of chapter 2, there is a suggested assignment that some of us girls did for the last meeting. The assignment was:

"A young lady once wrote me a letter saying how hard it was for her because she didn't have anyone to date. This hurting girl was lonely and frustrated, and she kept noticing everyone else with their boyfriends. She was feeling so desperate that she began writing letters to guys she knew, inviting them to events, and trying to get their attention. If this girl asked you for advice, what would you tell her? What suggestions would you give her? Write a sample letter, giving some counsel to this young lady. Be sure you include Scripture in your answer."

This is what I wrote:

October 23rd, 2006
Dear Daughter of the King,

I know that it's hard when you're not noticed. Every girl longs to feel some sort of admiration or approval from young men. When that doesn't happen, oftentimes we find ourselves having doubts. "Am I just not pretty?" "Am I so undesirable that no one will pay me any attention?" are thoughts that begin to crowd our mind. Yet, let me assure you that God loves you, and has made you exactly the way He wants you to be. You are beautiful in His eyes!

Although it's hard, you are actually blessed to not have guys pursuing you while you are young. The years before you get married are precious, not to be spent chasing after guys and wondering who "likes" you, or trying to attract boyfriends. 1 Corinthians 7:34 says: "An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world - how she can please her husband." Marriage is a wonderful thing, created and blessed by God. However, in these years before marriage God wants us to be devoted to Him in everything, and to strive to do what He wants us to do, while we're free from the responsibilities that come from being a wife.

I know that out of your deep desire to get attention, you must have started writing these letters! However, I highly urge you to stop doing this! God will bring about His perfect husband for you in His perfect time. In the meantime, "Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD." (Psalm 27:14)

"But why?" you may wonder. "Why can't I have fun being with different young men before I'm tied down to one person? Why can't I date around and test the waters?" God has called us to a high standard of purity. Matthew 5:8 says, "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God."

"But these feelings are natural!" you may protest. Yes, they are natural, but we must turn them over to God and ask Him to help us remain pure. Song of Songs tells us to "not awaken or arouse love until it so desires" in Song of Songs 2:7, 3:5, and 8:4 - that's three different times! Likewise, 2 Timothy 2:22 says, "Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart."

Think about how your future husband would feel if you gave pieces of your heart away to many different young men. You'd only be left with shattered pieces to present him. Wouldn't you rather have a whole heart to give to him, and "bring him good, not harm, all the days of your life" as it says in Proverbs 31:11?

It's not easy. The life of a young lady devoted to Christ is not easy. We can't do it on our own. As it says in 2 Corinthians 3:5 - "Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God." He will help you! "In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express." (Romans 8:26)

Use these days of your youth wisely. "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith, and in purity." (1 Timothy 4:12) Fall deeper in love with Christ and grow in a fuller relationship with Him. Love and build up your father, and so receive from him the man's love you so desperately need. Serve your family and so find much fulfillment. Learn how to be a wife and mother, so preparing for the future.

Wait on God. He will be faithful and He will bring you a wonderful husband if it is His plan, in His perfect time. Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose."

God is good! Your wait will all be worth it in the end!

Anna Lofgren
"Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for He who promised is faithful." (Hebrews 11:23)

I would recommend that all maidens read Before You Meet Prince Charming. It is such a wonderful book, calling us to radiant purity.


Miriam Rebekah said...

That's beautiful, Anna! I know I've already heard it, but I still enjoyed reading it.

Susan said...

I think you have the gift of encouragement. . . or the gift of exhortation, Anna! What a beautiful letter :).

Ella said...

Anna, what a nice post. YOu know something that I have found to help me in the area of waiting, besides praying? I have started a journal to my future husband. I write in it about once a month or so, telling him my thoughts, my dreams, and other such things. No one reads it besides me, but I have found it to be of help. I would encourage others to do the same.

Anna Naomi said...

Thanks for the encouragement, girls!

You think so, Susan? Thank you! =) A few years ago we studied spiritual gifts, and I seemed to fit most in with the gift of servanthood. However, you never know!

Ella, I have actually been doing the same thing for a little more than a year! It has really helped me stay focused on remembering that I'm waiting for only one! I usually write a little more frequently. It's mainly my journal, along with notes to him. I actually wrote a poem about it last April, entitled "Letters to My Dearest". You can read it here

Mandy Grace said...

That's a great letter! Ever since I saw that book on the Vision Forum website it has been on my to-read list. Hopefully I can get it soon. :-)

Elijah Lofgren said...

Wow, Anna. Your writing ability is amazing! Keep up the good work. As I've said before, you can publish a book (or multiple books) from your blog posts someday.

Anna Naomi said...

Thanks, Lij, for the encouragement. I highly doubt these writings would be good enough for a book, however! =)

Tai said...

Wow! That letter was great! I received the book "Before You Meet Prince Charming" for Christmas, and I read it all in one day! Now I am going back through it slower and studying more and doing the assignments! I have been really blessed by that book!

~Tai Sophia